Definition of “Friend”: “Gary”

I have a number of good friends and friends that have done good by me. No way I survive the past 52 years without them. I am very lucky. The latest example happened last week.

I rely on my friend Gary to keep me alive. He is my cardiologist and I have high levels of triglycerides and cholesterol. He tends to also be my go to guy for any medical advice and naturally I conferred with him about my Mom.

Early last week he called to get an update. (His one character flaw is that he does not read 48Facets religiously.) I was in a deeply sad mood when he called. I ranted about the care she was getting in the hospital, howled about how the docs do not seem to talk to each other.

At this point it was two days before an evaluation of Mom at which they would decide when she would be kicked out of the hospital. We we expected that it would be only a few days after the evaluation. She had been in the rehab unit working on her strength and functionality. She had been making good progress. From my perspective a stay at a rehab unit in a nursing home should be the next step. I wanted her to be as a strong as possible before going home and we needed more time to assess in-home heath care assistance.

She however, had been adamant about going home. Nothing I or my siblings said made any difference. So back to my call with Gary.

When I shared that she intended to go home he proceeded to give me all the reasons why this was a bad idea. Duh. Preaching to the choir I replied. In my desperate, whiny voice I said something to the effect of don’t tell me, tell her. So he did.

He took time out of his very busy schedule to go spend time with her. He accomplished what I could not. He convinced her to go to the rehab facility. He was uniquely qualified. He is a doc and he has known her since we were in fifth grade. Way to go Gary!

I had left town the day after so I did not hear about it until he left a message for me letting me know that he had tried. Shortly after I heard from my sister that he had been successful.

Gary did not have to take time out of his doctor/father/husband schedule to do this. He could of stopped at lending an empathetic ear to a friend. Actually he could not have stopped there. That is not the kind of guy he is. He is a good guy.

It chokes me up just to write about this. Thanks Gary.

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2 Responses to Definition of “Friend”: “Gary”

  1. Frank says:

    Man…what a great friend. I got choked up reading that.

  2. Pax Romano says:

    You are a lucky guy to have people like Gary in your corner.

    Best of luck to you and your mother. As frustrating as it might be, at least your Mom still has that fight left in her, and that’s a good thing.

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